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Why don’t men understand us?

Wow, 8,237 of you have read this.
I’ll be accused of sexism by the end of this column but hear me out before you judge me.

Men cannot read minds ladies, If you have something to say but don’t say it, we don’t have a clue what’s going on in your head or what you’re trying to tell us. I was asked by a group of women, why men can’t understand them. I asked them what they meant and the examples they gave baffled me to no end.

Again my point is, had she told him, he would have probably nipped back out and she would have gotten the sugar rush she wanted in the first place (Yes the guys I spoke to about this wondered whether forgetting to buy a pack of skittles was deserving of the death sentence)

The first example given was by a lady who said that she had been on a date with a guy, she pointed out that he was nice enough but just not her cup of tea. That’s fair enough but then she said that she never actually told him. The guy tried calling and sent a couple of unreturned messages and the lady said that he would eventually get the message if she didn’t respond for a while. What was interesting was that every time her phone rang (twice) or she got a text from him (once) she would sigh and get annoyed, I pointed out that if she sent him a message saying that she had no interest in him then he would get the message and stop trying to get in contact.

The second example given was by a lady who said that she didn’t like it when her boyfriend didn’t understand what he had done wrong and needed reminding from her before he eventually apologised. I probed further. Boyfriend’s crime was to not know that girlfriend was annoyed at him. She asked him to pick up some sour skittles on his way home. He forgot and she got angry but neglected to tell him that she felt that way. He had no idea that he was in the dog house but he was expected to know this based on the fact that she was giving him short responses rather than full sentences when they spoke. Again my point is, had she told him, he would have probably nipped back out and she would have gotten the sugar rush she wanted in the first place (Yes the guys I spoke to about this wondered whether forgetting to buy a pack of skittles was deserving of the death sentence)

She said that just because she told him that she didn’t want a present didn’t mean that she actually meant it (several tequillas later, the guys I was doing the research with are still trying to figure this one out)

Final example is a classic one that has fooled many a man over the course of time. A lady told her husband that she didn’t want a birthday present this year because she knew that money was tight and also there wasn’t really anything that she wanted this year. Man assumed that she meant what she was saying and so got her no birthday present and she hit the roof. She said that just because she told him that she didn’t want a present didn’t mean that she actually meant it (several tequillas later, the guys I was doing the research with are still trying to figure this one out)

Ladies, as mentioned at the beginning of this column, men are not yet equipped with the ability to decode thoughts, so if there’s anything you’d like to say, mean to say or have to say it’s probably best that you do say it. That way we’ll know and we’ll be able to make sure we do what it is you want us to do and do it well.

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