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Victim or Victor? Which Do You Choose? | Karin Volo

Wow, 15,395 of you have read this.
How many times have you blamed someone or something else for a problem in your life?

We’ve all done it and we are conditioned to do this. It is a natural reaction…yet it is one that harms us in so many ways. Blaming others automatically puts you in a position of being a victim. It gives your control away and takes away your confidence and innate power.

The truth is we create our lives by our thoughts and our emotions. And whatever circumstances come into your life have a purpose, mostly to teach you some sort of lesson. Taking ownership of 100% of your life experience is not an easy task! Who wants to say they created such hardships as death, illness, trauma, accidents, abuse, and lousy relationships? But that is exactly what needs to be done in order to let go of the victim mentality and become victorious in your life.

So how do you go about doing this? The first thing is to realize that most of us are creating our life unconsciously. That means it isn’t your fault horrible things have happened to you! You have probably been creating your life by default, going back to the reactions we are conditioned to by our upbringing. If something bad happens, blame it on _____________ (fill in the blank).

We are not taught about the amazing power that we all have within us—the power to create. More and more people are becoming aware of this. During the most difficult times in my life when I sat in jail for 1,352 days, I learned to tap into this power and actually begin to consciously work with it. Once I got the hang of it, I’ve been able to create many miracles in my life.

How long will it serve you to be a victim? When I was sitting incarcerated, away from my children on another continent for almost four years, I decided to release the victim mentality.

The key is to not beat yourself for your previous choices in life—that just changes the blame from external sources to yourself—this is counter-productive! Look for the lessons instead so you can take that away from the difficult circumstances. Accept that you have made some choices that had some tough lessons and be grateful that you have now figured that out.

You have a choice. You can choose to be a victim or a victor! Which one will you choose?

Also, no one consciously chooses to experience disease, disability, child abuse, jail, or any of the other hideous things that can happen in our world. On a deeper soul level, we may have chosen these experiences because of the lessons we can learn. Overcoming any difficult situation gives you more power, more confidence in yourself, more appreciation for the good things we have in life, and inspires others.

This was a BIG lesson I learned during the hardest time in my life. I’m sharing my life story, 1,352 Days: An Inspirational Journey From Jail To Joy, because I want to help inspire and empower others to be the best that they can be, to learn to shift challenges into victory.

You have a choice. You can choose to be a victim or a victor! Which one will you choose?

Author Bio

Karin Volo, Chief Joy Bringer, is an expert in engagement, career, personal and cultural development. She is the author of 1,352 Days, and co-author of the international bestselling Engage! With 15+ years experience working with international Fortune 500 companies, she has insights on business building, cultural transformation, and high performance. Karin works with cultural development, employee engagement, leadership mentoring, professional inspirational speaking and writing. She is the author of the Bringing Joy children’s series, and blogs on Huffington Post. Her purpose is bringing joy to the world. Find out more at www.KarinVolo.com

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